wedding toasts second marriages

I'm having a private ceremony, but a full reception of my wedding, need advice on bridesmaids!?
Hello, my boyfriend and I are getting married out of state, on a beach in a private ceremony with our immediate family only. This second marriage for him, but my first (his previous marriage lasted only few months and ended more than five years). We are very relaxed, and prefer to do our ceremony in private with the people closest to us, so we are going to married July 2, 2011 after a reception in our house in our backyard in the following weekend, July 9. We would like our reception to be something casual, but still a little traditional, served dinner, a bar and DJ. My problem is I want to somehow include bridesmaids. I have four friends who are very close me and my boyfriend has a number of men who are close to him that somehow we want to include in our wedding celebrations. We're not sure how to do this, we must have them wear matching clothes, each making a toast? We are at a loss how to address this. I would greatly appreciate any advice! Thanks!
Kelly, the problem here is that what you are doing is not good etiquette and that is why it is running on this issue. It is good to have a small private ceremony at a beach, but if that is what you choose for your wedding, then it is your wedding day. You can not really launch a "reception wedding, a week later. And it is even more difficult to incorporate into it the bridesmaids. You also said that he was very private and quiet, which makes sense for the ceremony. But it makes sense to say this and then throw a big party when you return. The big event of someone's wedding is the ceremony, reception, and the purpose of a reception to thank those who attended his wedding. That's why your question is not getting answers. All this is off. If these friends are so important to you and you love them as part of your wedding celebration "" then have to be part of the wedding itself, which is also a requirement for bridesmaids. They "assist" the bride at her wedding.
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